Hello, and thanks a ton for stopping by! Here you'll find the ramblings of a girl err...woman left uninterrupted, or a woman left to her own devices! It's in such moments of uninterrupted ecstasy I find myself, far, far away from the madding crowd, where an Oak tree, shepherds me. ;)
Thursday, December 8, 2016
5 years ago...
A sudden lightness in the lower part of my abdomen woke me in the wee hours of a bright Monday morning a
good 5 years ago. I tried to turn to my side, but that was not to be. With some
superhuman effort, I heaved my rather heavy frame from the bed and managed to sit
upright. There was water everywhere. I rushed to the loo only to discover that
my nighty was completely wet. How did that happen? I was unaware of the copious
amount of water leaving me. Was it incontinence? In no time, the entire
household was awake; my mom reassuring me that it’s all fine, my sister,
running helter-skelter, getting me water and some food, putting some stuff into
a hospital bag, and R driving at supersonic speed with athai (MIL) to reach home to
me. All of us tumbled into our car, and that’s when it began. The first time it
happened, I brushed it as some random twitching of some muscle. The second time
it happened, the words that came to mind were, “gnawing pain.” In no time, I
R brought the car to a halt at the hospital from where the hospital staff took over. After some preliminary investigations, the doctor declared that I
would hold my baby in my hands today, definitely. But I may have to wait since
it was only the early stage of labor and the baby may finally decide to come
out only after at least 10-12 hours of labor. What do I do until that time? Can I
get a book or something? I swear I was quite serious when I said that. The nurses fixed me an incredulous stare that broke into a reluctant smile and went on with their early morning hospital
duties. I decided to twiddle thumbs, literally.
Then, it happened; rather, it started
to happen. The twiddling stopped for one shocking second. It was all normal the next
second. I balanced myself on one arm and tried to look around if someone had
actually smacked me or something. I fell back on the bed and put my arms behind my neck and
tried to think of some nice-smelling biriyani, accompanied by some yum raitha.
The next time it happened, I had screamed without even realizing it. I was in
trouble. Labor was no joke. The pain that had come and gone like a little cramp
on a particularly crabby chum time was now a full blown, gnawing, poking, wave
of pain that began nowhere in particular and ended everywhere in general.
And, he came
There were moments when I thought I was having a heart attack
or something. Then came the kicks, reminding me of where I was and for what. I
could only manage a weak smile in reponse. In no time, I was screaming and raging at the nurses telling them I was
in active labor and imploring them to give me an epidural to ease the pain.
They couldn’t be bothered. For it was not even two hours since I was admitted,
and I was no doctor to advise them. The junior doctor inserted her fingers in
and declared it was only a cm of dilation, and that was too little for an
epidural and went her way. I had no option but to twiddle my thumbs, only that
the twiddling now became more purposeful and was punctuated with balling of the
The contractions were getting intense and came more often. I
decided to grit my teeth and calculate the frequency. It was happening once
every 5 minutes. All the pregnancy literature I had gorged on until then had
clearly said that 5-minute contractions meant the delivery is quite close. I
was now screaming my guts out, much to the doctor’s irritation. She got ready
to tell me to stop my unnecessary screaming and go back to my twiddling.
Instead, she checked me and declared that I was in active labor and had gone well past the epidural stage. WHAT THE HELL!
Me holding him for this first time
She said it in a matter-of-factly way
and moved on. Then came many more waves of contractions and pain, and finally
one gut-wrenching scream followed by the cry of a new born. The doctors deftly
pulled him out as my tummy deflated in one swift movement, as they threw him on my solar plexus. The moment
I saw him, all my screaming screeched to a halt at the throat. My eyes took
over; they followed the little fellow everywhere. Someone checked his vitals,
they weighed him to be 3.082 kg, and finally they brought his face close to
mine. His little eyes finally met mine; he had by then stopped crying and had
begun to scan the surroundings, and I’d like to think his eyes lingered on mine
a little longer. “So, you are Kavin? Welcome darling,” I mouthed
and smiled. Somebody freeze-frame this moment for me I thought to myself and
let sleep and other recovery mechanisms of the body take over. The rest of the
events are recorded in mind in a faint dreamy hue. Ma coming and giving a
beautiful hug, and declaring that the infant resembled R to the tee; R wheeling me to the bed;
MIL and sis happily chatting away; and me finally falling off into a deep,
dreamless slumber. My life had changed forever; I had taken the one-way bridge
The infant who could fit snugly in the crook of my arm just 5 years ago, now demands much more than my arm. He insists on his own bed, his pillow, his books, and even his own room. And, yes, it's no wonder he planned his own birthday party a few days ago, invited his friends, and brought the roof down.
Each December, I make this travel in my mind and re-live this little story of how Kavin entered our lives. And, I must say it rejuvenates me and gets me started for a beautiful new year.